Welcome to October and the beginning of my ninth month as an online dating subscriber. I could have birthed a baby in the time I have spent reading the profiles of aging American men. I am glad that I don’t have a baby (WAY to old for that), but wish I could find the right guy! I did receive two flirtatious communications again this week, but once again, felt no connection to their profile. I should probably share with you an interesting observation I have made in my time on my current dating site. There are three ways to start a conversation with a potential match-email, a flirtatious communication (I don’t share the real word for this as I try to keep all of this as anonymous as possible) or a phone call. I have always assumed that men sometimes choose the “flirting method” if they just want to let you know that they are interested without actually writing you an email.(They just kind of “feel you out” to see if you are available.) I have received several of these over the past months, and have responded with an email or a “flirt” back if I am interested. Funny thing. Many times, when I write back, either their profile is blocked OR they never respond! WHAT IS UP WITH THAT????? It makes me believe that all of this is just a big game for some of these “supposed singles looking for love.” Hopefully, this gives you more insight into why I often find this entire process exhausting and ridiculous.
This week’s profiles did contain a few great quotes and one winning photo. Here they are:
One 52-year old from a neighboring town to the north had this as his opening line: “I like to think of myself as a great guy that you can take home to your parents.” Now, I understand exactly what he means by this statement, however, the problem is that many of us with fifty-plus candles on our cake no longer have parents who are living. In my case, my mom is still with us, but my dad has been gone for 15 years. I think a better line is , “I like to think of myself as a great guy that you can take home to your kid(s).” This is a far better test. Any match of mine will also have to be a great match for my son!
Another local guy wrote “……life is short so I like making the best of those moments with an occasional food or pillow fight.” A food fight sounds a little messy and reminiscent of college and “Animal House.” A pillow fight reminds me of something I did with my sibling at bedtime or with friends at a sleepover. These are not activities I have engaged in with a mate. The slogan, “Make love not war” seems a more fitting activity for a couple, don’t you agree?
One fella from a state to the south mentions that he likes “cars, trains, planes, boats/ships…..hey, I’m a guy!” I think I just might update my profile with the following sentence: “I like shopping, clothes, shoes, jewelery, chocolate and flowers…..hey, I’m a girl!
My favorite photo was posted by a grown man from a neighboring town. He is lying on his stomach on an unmade bed holding a teddy bear. He is 52 years old. Is it just me or is this kind of weird?
This concludes my summary of this week’s profiles. I would like to leave you with a quote I read in an email earlier this week. “God doesn’t give you the people you want; He gives you the people you NEED……to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be. I hope this serves as a reminder that every person we cross paths with serves a purpose. There are no “accidental encounters.” I thank you for reading, and am grateful that our paths have crossed! I fully understand that it is part of a master plan……..